Don’t get caught in the “I need a girlfriend” force field!

This may shock you.  Are you ready?

The thought, “I need a girlfriend” pushes girls away.

Yes, it’s true.

As soon as you have the thought, “I need a girlfriend,” an invisible force field pops up all around you and blocks you from finding a girlfriend.

Fortunately there are 3 simple steps you can take to fix this and I am about to tell you what they are.

So let’s fix this.  Let’s fix this right now.

The thought “I need a girlfriend” is quite natural, normal, and even common.  When you want something that you don’t have, it is natural to think that you need it.

But that thought is actually preventing you from finding the girlfriend you seek.  And it all hinges on the word “need.”

When you say, “I need a girlfriend,” it echoes in three different dimensions.  And it blocks her from coming to you in three ways.

So before you place your attention on her, it is crucial that you correct this within yourself.  You must bring down this force field, which is silently repelling all your potential girlfriends.

By correcting your relationship with yourself in these three directions, you can become a girlfriend magnet.  There are many ways to do this.  Here is one simple approach that can literally change everything for you.

Force Field Direction A – Above Your Head

Have you ever felt like there is a dark cloud that follows you around?  It may be sunny for others standing right next to you, but where you are there is a gray cloud ruining your chances for love.

The first step in becoming a girlfriend magnet is to let the sun shine over your head.  I’m not kidding.  That cloud is a cloud of need.  As you bring in the sunshine with your imagination, you begin to realize that you don’t really need a girlfriend.  You simply want one.  And that makes all the difference.

At first you may have to close your eyes and picture a bright sun overhead.  With time you can do this with eyes open as you walk around.  Do it all day long.  The rays of your inner sun will burn through the cloud of your thought that you “need” a girlfriend.  And this can instantly make you more attractive.

Force Field Direction B – Inside Your Skin

Have you ever felt that you are incomplete without a girlfriend?  Have you ever felt bad when you see couples walking holding hands?  Like you want it so bad that you get mad at them for having what you want?

That feeling, no matter how natural and understandable it is, is hurting you.  It is strengthening the force field that repels girlfriends.

And you might be surprised at how quickly you can diffuse this bomb before it blasts a hole in your potential love life and causes devastation in your emotions.

This time you are going to see a sun inside your chest.  See it burning brightly right in the center of your body at the level of your chest.  This is your heart center.  It is the place where love is most readily given and received in you.  Place this dazzling sun inside your body and let it radiate so brightly that it fills your entire body with light.

In fact, let your burning desire for a girlfriend be transmuted into this sunlight that burns so brightly that you actually begin to glow.  The light fully fills the space of your body and extends outward so that you are radiating the golden light of the sun within you.

At first you may have to close your eyes to picture this bright sun within you.  With time you can do this with eyes open as you go about your business.  Do it all day long.  The rays of your inner sun cleanse you of all envy, jealousy, and depression. Once you do this for a while, you become more attractive and magnetic.

Force Field Direction C – Radiating From Your Face

This one is easy once you have done the others.  Close your eyes and picture your face.  See the sun above you shining a light that brings out all the most attractive qualities of your face.  And see the light within you radiating from your face in a way that makes you whole, complete, and peaceful within.

Do these three visualizations everyday and watch how your life changes.  You may never think, “I need a girlfriend” again.  And that would be a good thing because once the girlfriend-repelling force field comes down from all around you, you will probably have many potential girlfriends to choose from.


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  1. Lynn says:

    I imagine it would work for anything you are looking for in your life – girlfriend, job, etc., correct?

    • admin says:

      That’s a really good point. Shifting from the oppressive feeling of *need* to the glow of *empowerment* works in all arenas.

      Thanks for your insight.

  2. Lara says:

    Perfect timing. I’m sitting with feelings of wanting a boyfriend right now, but not b/c of Valentine’s Day – just because. I’ve been trying to find ways to take my mind of those types of thoughts and put them more on feeling whole, so I really needed to see this article. Thanks!

  3. pc says:

    ok i will try this…

  4. Kate says:

    Rebbie, I love these visualizations! They instantly connect me to the LOVE that’s in me already. I feel this happy feeling right now, while at the same time there’s a coziness of anticipation of what’s to come in the area of partnership for me. 🙂

    And yes, to the person up top… I completely agree that these could be used for ANYTHING. These visualizations also give me a sense of what your Relationship Course might be like, and… I like it!

    Many thanks, Rebbie.

  5. Jody says:

    Thank you, Rebbie, for all your wisdom and insights.

    Happy Valentines Day!

  6. Annette says:

    The perfect recomendation for me. Not because of Valentine, I have been with this feeling for a while. This exercise makes me feel in peace. Thanks,

    A friend of my sent me this article, I would like to see future post in my email, can you add me to your readers.

    Thanks again and many blessings!

    • admin says:

      Hi Annette,

      You can sign up on any of the pages on this website
      ( ) or you can sign up for the free ecourse “7 Secrets for Manifesting Your Heart’s Desire” at .

      This will get you on my mailing list. I’m sorry I cannot add you due to spam regulations.

      Thank you for your interest in YOFA!

      Love and Blessings,

  7. Eli says:

    Hi Rebbie,

    Great exercises because they feel like fun. Just doing them is already rewarding in the present.

    I agree with Lynn, who said they could work for anything.

    I am already happily married, but I think there is no limit to how much a relationship can shine even brighter, so I am going to play with these in relation to my wife. Thanks for sharing these

  8. I’m not sure where you are getting your info, but great topic. I needs to spend some time learning more or understanding more. Thanks for wonderful info I was looking for this information for my mission.

  9. narendra says:

    i love my girlfriend

  10. JJ says:

    What a load of virtual Hoooie. Do you want to know what stops you? LACK OF SUCCESS You want to succeed in some specific area when you fail at most others, that rarely works. Accept that you are a failure. Acceptance is the first step to self realization. No one else will like you, if you don’t like yourself. Of course, if you are handsome and wealthy then your self esteem is irrelevant. Most people who have no relationship, are too self absorbed, and LAZY.
    Do you want a relationship, or do you just want to whine about how, despite your psoriasis, zits and body odor, any partner your age is really beneath you. Sure I understand, we all have standards.

    • admin says:

      Interesting comment JJ. Even though you seem to be criticizing this perspective, you actually describe exactly what this is all about (but i find it works more joyfully without the resistance and judgments 8-).

      Our relationships with others are all reflections of our relationship with self. Thanks for pointing that out.

      I wonder what others think of your … shall we call it “tough Love”?

      Love and Blessings,

      • James says:

        yeah my sentiments exactly and im thinking that even if you have the Good looks and wealth success w.e and you “get the girls” either way w.o having any self esteem than they are after the one thing… money or sex. and theres more in a relationship than those 2 things. get off ur high horse. ty gahday mate

  11. Grim says:

    I really need a girlfriend 🙁 Tried alot of times with a lot of chicks but they still dun wanna be with me D: Those sites don’t help at all…it depends on how the girl is…all i can say that the hot girls in my town are all slutz D: D: D:

  12. Nathan says:

    That’s a very good idea I used to think u had to be a jerk but I’ll try ur I dea

  13. masilo says:

    I am 26 and never been in a relationship
    And I’m blaming myself for that.
    My mom is always asking me of my girlfriend.

  14. casey says:

    I’m recently divorced going through the waking up by myself sucks stage and it does suck! Guess I’m going to try it

  15. ram says:

    pure BS, this article

  16. godfred yeboah says:

    I need a baeutifull girlfriend
    to marriage

  17. James says:

    hey thanks for the advice. I’ve heard it all before but thinking about it in a metaphorical way explains the reasons behind it better.
    No one is attracted to someone mopy or looks sad. When we look around and see someone attractive we look for the smile and we might not get it. THATS PROBIBLY BECAUSE WE DONT SMILE FIRST! she or he maybe shy or the look on YOUR*MINE*OUR face is pushing them away.

    Thnx again, your the best! ♥

  18. Kg says:

    The is no true love is all about money..

  19. dave says:

    interesting. its all about positive thoughts. the mind can be so powerful sometimes i guess.
    not really related but are you an eckist? if not never mind the question

  20. Yes! Finally someone writes about in need of a girlfriend.

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